Love : Illness or Drug

"At what point did you know what true love is?"I find it interesting that once love is lost we tend to question the validity of what we felt at that time. Does love (or whatever we are referring to) have so many brain chemicals under siege that we don't have the sanity to recognize what's real? Is love the drug or is it the illness? Either way, should we be declared clinically insane?I've never been addicted to a drug, but I've heard that drug addicts dream about getting that ultimate high. Is that why people dream about their ex in happier times? "Physics, the shit ain't! It ain't suppose to make sense... Love, passion... it is what it is" ~Love Jones.And is it self preservation that requires a blatant lie when the topic of love comes up? Because if we admitted that we were once in love, we'd also have to admit that we lost it, too.


I guess many would be more willing to admit love if they had given birth. But is that only because it's suppose to be that way or because the illness would be chronic at that point instead of acute instances of illness?


And if God is love, do we ever really reach that level? And since we can't fathom God, can we really fathom love?


Do we just continue living with or devoid of illness or the drug (love)? ::shrugs::


My true love may be in remission or I may just be one relationship away from a relapse. Who knows?


What I want is to be needed,what I need is to be indispensable to somebody.Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time,my ego,my attention,somebody addicted to me;a mutual addiction.


Sternberg calls love that is marked only by 'intimacy',but not passion or commitment,'liking love' or good friends.When love consists only of 'commitment',nothing but duty keeps a couple together.He calls this 'empty love'.But when intimacy and commitment meet passion a couple moves into "consummate love",the best of all worlds.Few couples continually stay in a state of consuming love.And many will go through various loving styles as feeling rise fall and rise again.